What’s love got to do with it? Self love is the ability to love selflessly. Love the good and bad parts of our God given DNA. It also means loving others the way we would want to be loved. Not sexually or emotionally, but wholeheartedly. Sacrificial love is not based on a feeling, but a determined act of the will, a joyful resolve to put the welfare of others above our own. But this type of love does not come naturally to humans. No one can make us feel happy about ourselves. We have to create the space to do this on our own. The one thing that is clear is based on many recent incidents happening around the Country, is that Agape Love is absent. Do we even know what it means and how to change our mindset so that it’s in the forefront of everything we do?
I struggled in my mind because I was always concerned about what other people thought of me. Was I feminine enough, did I look attractive, was my nose too big, was I tall enough, etc… I experienced feeling ashamed of the agenda God gave me and tried to re-create my own agenda. I also had what I called an explosive reactive attitude. If you messed with me, I’ll get you back! That didn’t work! I have consistently worked on these issues over the years. Confusion persisted! It wasn’t until I took the time to understand Agape Love did I settle down. Of course I dealt with hard core lessons learned and embrassing situations that led me to change. I continue to work on accepting me and life as it comes. Love is more powerful than hate. Making a difference in spite of tragedy takes a strong mindset. It also requires Agape Love.
“It will make you mad, and then you will sing with us…” Living In The Black, the stage play
The stage is a powerful platform. It is the untold truth! A place where live music and real interactions tell a story and create surprise, laughter, sadness, suspense and triumph! It’s so emotional because you will feel the actors pain and rejoice when they triumph. The book, Living In The Black is about the silence of domestic violence. This is a topic no one wants to talk about at the kitchen table. What inspired me to write Living In The Black is the fact that I was a victim and now a survivor, but was embrassed to admit it. As I watched my daughter grow up, I knew I had to be honest. Not admitting it or brushing it under the rug meant acceptance. I didn’t want to create confusion and allow my daughter to think that it was okay. So, my writing experience with Living In The Black was explosive!! Thank you Seraph Books and Alyssa Curry!!! Local actors and muscians will bring the book, Living In The Black to “life” on May 9th at 7pm at the Henderson Fine Arts Center in Henderson, KY. Playwright Stanley Jackson of SJM Productions takes sections of my story and re-creates scenes on stage. He says this play is more dramatic than some of his other stage plays, but that you will go through every emotion! You will think, cry and laugh. Then you will get mad, and sing with us! Can you imagine this on stage? Well, Playwright Stanley Jackson has the magic touch and will allow you to experience his artistry and ministry on May 9 at the Henderson Fine Arts Center!!! Click on this article from the Courier Press to get details!! If you want to read the Book, you can get it here!!!
The Greatest Love Of All: God made you just the way you are! It’s important to understand who you are before expecting everyone else to. A big mistake we make is focusing on what other people think before knowing our own strengths and values. Bosses who never respond positively to anything unless a task is done perfectly, need to be taught how to manage others. Boys who grow up with the preception that being tough is a defining factor, often never feel comfortable in their own skin because this teaches them to be disconnected. Girls who recongize and resist controlling behaviors remove constraints in their life. This is a great start. Other peoples perceptions of you have no value, but what you think about yourself is priceless. You will do things to hurt yourself because you think it will make you feel better. It probally does, temporarily. Looking in the mirror is the best therapy because what you see is what you should love. Embracing the beauty within and in front of you as well as taking time to appreciate what you have to offer is often times underestimated. There is a plethora of data that indicates that if we treat ourselves with the same kindness as we do with others, we would live happier and healthier lives. No amount of feel good substances will change what is in the mirror. If you don’t like what you see, you have the power to change it, no mattter what. The greatest love of all is the love you have for yourself. When you appreciate self love, you won’t to attempt to change anyone because your newfound spirit will invite others to share that glow. Abuse me, lose me.
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This is Unacceptable. If this problem is not deeply disected with a specific plan
to provide solutions, we are in trouble as a society. What is next?
When our value is at risk, it is akin to being deprived of oxygen. Have you ever felt like your efforts were not appreciated? This is the perfect time to hold your head up and trust your integrity. Worrying about why someone else doesn’t know your value will only zap your energy! Defending your value will depleted it more. If you have done your best and given your all, that effort will be recognized at some point. It may be indirectly related to the current situation. It may surface in a form that you don’t expect. Always trust your integrity and believe in you! Always now that you have value! Don’t let anyone steal your sunshine!