The Greatest Love Of All: God made you just the way you are! It’s important to understand who you are before expecting everyone else to. A big mistake we make is focusing on what other people think before knowing our own strengths and values. Bosses who never respond positively to anything unless a task is done perfectly, need to be taught how to manage others. Boys who grow up with the preception that being tough is a defining factor, often never feel comfortable in their own skin because this teaches them to be disconnected. Girls who recongize and resist controlling behaviors remove constraints in their life. This is a great start. Other peoples perceptions of you have no value, but what you think about yourself is priceless. You will do things to hurt yourself because you think it will make you feel better. It probally does, temporarily. Looking in the mirror is the best therapy because what you see is what you should love. Embracing the beauty within and in front of you as well as taking time to appreciate what you have to offer is often times underestimated. There is a plethora of data that indicates that if we treat ourselves with the same kindness as we do with others, we would live happier and healthier lives. No amount of feel good substances will change what is in the mirror. If you don’t like what you see, you have the power to change it, no mattter what. The greatest love of all is the love you have for yourself. When you appreciate self love, you won’t to attempt to change anyone because your newfound spirit will invite others to share that glow. Abuse me, lose me.
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History is a potent recollection of our past. It built the backbone of what being an American is all about. Some of our past is painful while many parts are joyous to remember and reflect upon. Time has a way of healing and repairing the fabric of our most tragic events. Time also gives us an opportunity to engage in generational traditions or make changes in an effort to celebrate events we are proud of. We have learned valuable lessons and worked to improve and elevate our state of being because of history. It is recorded in classical novels, written abstracts, movies and other forms of media. There is one part of our history that is disturbing. The many decades when human beings were treated like chattel. Laws supporting human beings of ethnic descent as an equal to cattle or furniture ended 148 years ago. In the aftermath of the Civil War and it’s post war consequences, Civil liberties and rights have embraced our Country and the belief that all men should be respected and given a chance to succeed. In 2014 the fight for civil liberties and human rights is still very evident. I am surprised. We continue to read about young men being shot down in the streets while the shooters go free under our legal system as well as lynchings because of dating out of ones race. We also read about the overt disrespect of man and woman in their own household. Have we not not forgotten that everyone has the right to be respected and to feel safe and protected? Our leaders are responsible for making this a reality. This is why we vote! A leader must work to have extraordinary compassion for those he or she are responsible for because when turmoil is at it’s peak, everyone looks at the leaders, those who are suppose to set the example and sacrifice (at times), their own personal gain to ensure that others are developed and off to a positive path. Click here to learn about your human rights.
Don’t fight it. When you have been stripped down and feel like the world is crashing directly toward you, this is when you must not forget to prioritize your prayers. The choices we make put us in our predicaments, thus a strip down may be required to redirect us. The power of prayer is more profound than you think. Prayer is free and the conversation you have is guaranteed to be heard and listened to. I probably say the most unorthodox words when I pray, but I always have something to say. I stopped caring about the words and focus on my connection with Him. Here is a key point…pray with faith. That means don’t expect anything in the moment, but pray as if it has already been made evident. If you are a Leader, I think your guidance should come from prayer first and everything else, second. We are all leading in some form or fashion. Others will follow if you have wisdom.
“Without a focal point to guide you, you can easily lose your way. That’s why it is so important to stay in communication with Me, living in thankful awareness of My Presence”. ~Sarah Young. Matthew 6:33; John 8:29; Colossians 3:23-24
Male bashing is not my intent. A male should not put his hands on a female in an aggressive manner. If a male wants to control something, it should be his behavior. I understand that these incidents are not planned or anticipated. No one wakes up in the morning and says, “Today is a great day to commit domestic violence.” These things happen at the spur of the moment and those involved are usually in shock or disbelief when it occurs. The reason we don’t talk about is because it’s shameful to all those involved. Physical assault is also against the law when charges are pressed or when they are not. Hiding domestic violence might make sense at the time it occurs, but what you are in fact doing is allowing the cycle to continue.
1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence towards them. Gabrielle’s story is surprising but typical. She is a beautiful young aspiring model who was kicked out of a moving car after being beaten by her boyfriend. Click here to read about her story.