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Human Chattel, We Are Not! Value Our Human Rights.

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History is a potent recollection of our past. It built the backbone of what being an American is all about. Some of our past is painful while many parts are joyous to remember and reflect upon. Time has a way of healing and repairing the fabric of our most tragic events. Time also gives us an opportunity to engage in generational traditions or make changes in an effort to celebrate events we are proud of. We have learned valuable lessons and worked to improve and elevate our state of being because of history. It is recorded in classical novels, written abstracts, movies and other forms of media. There is one part of our history that is disturbing. The many decades when human beings were treated like chattel. Laws supporting human beings of ethnic descent as an equal to cattle or furniture ended 148 years ago. In the aftermath of the Civil War and it’s post war consequences, Civil liberties and rights have embraced our Country and the belief that all men should be respected and given a chance to succeed. In 2014 the fight for civil liberties and human rights is still very evident. I am surprised. We continue to read about young men being shot down in the streets while the shooters go free under our legal system as well as lynchings because of dating out of ones race. We also read about the overt disrespect of man and woman in their own household. Have we not not forgotten that everyone has the right to be respected and to feel safe and protected? Our leaders are responsible for making this a reality. This is why we vote! A leader must work to have extraordinary compassion for those he or she are responsible for because when turmoil is at it’s peak, everyone looks at the leaders, those who are suppose to set the example and sacrifice (at times), their own personal gain to ensure that others are developed and off to a positive path. Click here to learn about your human rights.

A Mother’s Love deserves, “I Love you”…

ImageI Love my mom! I grew up in a middle class family with both parents. My dad passed away at an early age, he was only 37 years old. He was diagnosed with Cancer. After his death, my mom immediately took control of the household and raised my sister, brother and I. I had a carefree childhood and went to a private high school and College.

It never occurred to me that as a child and teenager, I never said, “I love you” to my Mom. I watched her do everything from attend all of my sporting and band concert events to planting greens in the garden. I was busy being a kid and a teenager! It wasn’t until I became an adult, did I began saying the words,”I love you” to my mom. Maybe it was because I understood the heart felt value of these words after my own life experiences. I now express my appreciation and love for my Mom with the words, “I love you” every time we speak.
My Mom is 73 years old and has suffered multiple Strokes and a heart attack. Her Spirit and pride is the same as it was when she was 30 years old. She has always been a proud strong woman. Never complained and always accepted life with accountability. I love my Mom because she is the best Mom in the world and because she is what I aspire to be.

Power Unchecked Results in Isolation…

ImagePower unchecked can lead to a journey of isolation… Working in corporate America has taught me to recognize the difference between working on a goal and having direct reports who are responsible for executing the goal. When leading, it is important to remember that those you are directing should feel comfortable with you as a person. Sometimes we let the power of the Title consume us and forget that the direction we give to others is suppose to help them succeed and elevate them as a person and not make them feel like they are being torn apart. If someone directs you to complete a task and you feel intimated by them, you will focus on the feeling of inadequacy because you are intimated by how they speak or give the direction, instead of listening to the direction.

The end result will be unproductive. While leadership is not a popularity contest, it is also not a hammer. My definition of leading is described in two words, “self govern”. I beleive automony is powerful because that’s the moment when your Team feels like it’s not about money or power, but the inward desire to achieve because it is self fulfilling! I have experienced the isolation when no one wants to listen because I am to harsh or direct. When I explain that I am a vunerable person with the same desires and needs as my direct reports and show this through actions; when it’s time to give direction, my direct reports not only respect me, but they act immediately because they connect with me and understand that I really do have their best interest in mind when I ask them to accept my vision.

tidBits* Autonomy is the moment of no return because “they” feel self governed and self directed and it is then that individual success becomes inevitable even when you are not there!